“When a glass breaks, the sound of breaking disappears immediately, whereas the glass pieces are scattered all over, hurting whoever walks over it”.
Similarly, “When you say something that hurts someone’s emotions and feelings, your words disappear, but in the heart remains pain for long.”
Therefore, don’t say anything except good and always remember the nine advices and prohibitions that Allah has given in Surah Hujurat (The Surah of manners) before you say anything to anyone:
1.-فتبينوا:
“Fa Tabayyanu”: Investigate: whenever you receive an information, lest you harm people out of ignorance.
2.-فأصلحوا:
“Fa Aslihu”: Make settlement: between your brothers as believers are brothers.
3.-وأقسطوا:
“Wa Aqsitu”: Act justly: whenever there is a dispute try for settlement and act justly among both parties as Allah loves those who act justly.
4.-لا يسخر:
“La Yaskhar”: Don’t ridicule people, perhaps they may be better than you to Allah.
5.-ولا تلمزوا:
“Wa La Talmizu”: Don’t insult one another.
6.-ولا تنابزوا:
“Wa La Tanabazu”: Don’t call each other with offensive nicknames.
7.-اجتنبو كثيرا من الظن:
“Ijtanibu Kathiiran min Aldhan”: Avoid negative assumptions, indeed some of the assumptions are sins.
8.-ولا تجسسوا:
“Wa La Tajassasu”: Don’t spy on each other.
9.-ولا يغتب بعضكم بعضا:
“Wa La Yaghtab”: Don’t backbite about each other. It’s a major sin equivalent to eating your dead brother’s flesh.
Lastly, Allah says in the Qur’an “Remind, because the reminder benefits believers”.
